Instances

The society of the new millennium, a total population of 6,605,008,900, all separate lives, intertwining at some point. Now consider all the possibilities of how and in which directions can their lives change in a single instant. Indeed this is life, a path one takes to reach the final destination- some sort of dream and fulfilment (on any level).

Most of the time, I find myself thinking about these instances. I mean, I might sound like I have nothing better to do with my time but still, the realisation that a second ago my life was perfect and after a phone call everything came crashing down, is something very real, something one has to learn to deal with. The problem with most people is that they don’t stop and think, realising, taking note, of their surrounding environment, because they have to keep up with the rest of society- the media advertises that; one cannot afford to lag behind.

Then is all comes back to you. Being the social animal I am, I tend to speak with many different people, all with their own problems in life, joys and so on. For a example a friend of mine was over the moon with happiness as she was seeing this guy. They had been dating for quite a while now and things were moving in the right direction. A week after they broke up, and of course, desperation followed. This is understandable but this is my point- in a instance we can latterly be thrown to the opposite end of the emotional scale. You might think yes, big deal, we all know that. Well how true is that I don’t know, since for starters, if one had to realise that in an instance a life can change, one would automatically realise that every decision taken doesn’t affect only the maker but also the surrounding people, in some way or another. The fact that we have certain problems that could be simply avoided through careful consideration of our action rests my case that most of us have no idea of how to live in a society.

Fair enough, the human is egoistic by nature. I’m sorry that’s not a good enough excuse to justify certain things. I mean we have come a long way in manipulating nature in order to survive so why can’ we control this? In any case, as one can see, the occurrence of these instances is completely out of our hands. Incidentally it’s because of these drastic and sudden changes in our lives that humans are constantly on the lookout for ways and means to know their future.
So what can one do about all of this? Learn how to deal. That is the key to avoid desperation. These events occurring in our lives are sometimes inevitable, and learning how to accept them helps. I’m not saying just sit there and say “ah well there is nothing I can do about it” and let it slide by. This is not as healthy since usually it can come bite you in the ass, and this does not qualify as dealing with the situation, just skidding past it. A good example of dealing with it is by taking as much as you can out of the bad situation, try to find an alternative, be positive. In poor word be pro-active instead of sitting there and moping, because even though you might not be able to solve the problem, the fact that you are doing something about it helps especially from embarking the lane of desperation and loss.

Once again you might come to a point where things seem to grim, but don’t lose hope. Remember there are people around you who might be able to help you, and don’t exclude anyone since help can come from the strangest places. That’s all for this month an remember “there aren’t any problems, only solution”


M @ U